For years we have identified success in many ways.
How much money do you earn?
What kind of car do you drive?
What clothes do you wear?
How many bedrooms does your house have?
How many holidays do you take?
Where do you go on holiday?
Even to the extent of; What ‘Postcode’ (Area) do you live in?
As children we often heard that we needed to work hard to have ‘things’, because everything cost money and ‘Money doesn’t grow on Trees’. We were constantly reminded that there wasn’t ‘Enough’ money. Much of this is operating in our subconscious and so we’re not really aware that we have become competitive and are constantly comparing ourselves to others; often not in a positive way.
So because of this conditioning, we strive to obtain possessions to show that we are ‘Somebody’. In this striving we put pressure upon ourselves to work harder and work longer hours. We are all aware of this as it is constantly reflected in our outside world. We see mothers needing to work so that the family can afford to own their own house; to have a good car, for everyone to own the latest mobile phone, or other gadget. For outside appearances to show the world that we are doing well and are living a happy life even if we are extremely stressed.
I was talking to a young (31) man today and he was sharing with me how he has recently taken steps to improve his employment skills. He told me that it would take about 10 years to achieve the position he would like, with the rate of pay that he would expect to earn. He said that his three children would be at an age (teenagers) where they would need a lot more and he wanted to be able to provide that for them. His wife was working 3 days a week, but she was able to leave work to be home for their children when they returned from school. He had come to a place where he realised that working more hours took him away from his family especially on the weekend and he felt guilty that he wasn’t able to support his son as he played football (soccer). His children and their family unit are the most important thing to him.
We discussed the pressure there is on parents to provide the latest ‘thing’ and the cost of providing those ‘things’. I said that most of the time it wasn’t actually the children wanting the thing, but the parent feeling that their child would lose some kind of status if they didn’t keep up with their peers. We’re constantly being bombarded by advertising (often unconsciously) suggesting that we have this, or have that. I remember as a child dreading ‘Own Clothes Day’ in school as we lived close to London and so there were a lot of children who wore all the latest fashions, whereas my Dad was in the poorly paid Armed Forces and even had an evening job twice a week to supplement his wages. So I wasn’t able to follow the latest styles (even if I'd wanted to) and often had homemade clothes, or hand me downs from my Dads younger sisters. Don’t get me wrong, I loved receiving these clothes and felt a million pounds when I was wearing them, except when others mocked me. This didn’t make me want to lavish things on my own children; rather I decided to educate them to respect the things they had and to take responsibility themselves for buying the things they really wanted. My son would happily write on an envelope: His Name- Item Name - Fund. He would save birthday money and any wages he earned from peeling potatoes in the local restaurant. I used to tell him that if he saved his money up then he could take his time to decide whether he really ‘needed’ the thing. What usually happened was that he would realise he no longer wanted whatever it was, and instead he then had the funds to buy what it was he really needed. It worked out really well and he is now able to distinguish between what he ‘needs’ and what he ‘wants’ and choose accordingly.
So how does this relate to ‘Showing Up in the World without an Agenda?’ Well often we’re not clear about why we need something and so the means to achieving that thing can sometimes become clouded by the desire to possess it. We can see this as people manipulate others in to buying their products or into their system. There are even groups setting themselves up to teach you how to manipulate people into wanting what it is you’re offering. I have personally experienced this recently, when a man came to my Wisdom Group and afterwards asked me for personal 1-1 training. He said he’d never met anyone like me before. He said, “Everyone needs to hear what you have to say.” He wanted to introduce me to company heads with the idea that I speak to their employees. He had been working on Self Development for a few years and now wanted to be on his “Spiritual Path.” I told him that he was already on his Spiritual Path, and that from my perspective, I no longer identified with being ‘Spiritual’, rather I was consciously working to expand my Awareness and raise my Consciousness. For me my journey was now one of becoming as conscious as was possible. He noted that I was unfamiliar with ‘Business’ skills and decided that he would in fact mentor me and show me how to increase my following and earn ‘Good Money’. He told me that I ‘Gave Too Much of Myself’ and that I should give a smaller amount and leave people wanting more. That way I could ‘Reel’ them in and charge accordingly. I was really uncomfortable about this and initially believed that it was a lack in me and not the ‘feeling’ I was getting from what he was emanating. What I began to notice was that this individual obviously considered me less because I wasn’t earning the kind of money he put value upon. I started to observe our interactions as he tried to take over our sessions and I became alarmed when he started to tell me how it was easy to learn strategies where you can read someone and determine how to manipulate them into doing whatever you wanted. He said it wasn’t manipulation because it Became who you Are. (I don’t know about you, but I find that even more disturbing that it would be alright to become that way) I observed him as he demonstrated the skills he had learned. He was excited to show me what he could do and how it allowed him to earn great amounts of money. What I found quite shocking was that he started to repeat words in the way that I speak, whereas he’d previously not spoken that way before. Needless to say, I quickly ended my involvement with this man and after initially thinking that I’d been a fool to have been taken in by him, I realised that he had in fact taught me ‘Who I Am Not’, in order for me to reaffirm my integrity and Remember why I am here. To Remember that I am activating Codes and Changing Programming. So I don’t need to learn strategies to manipulate people in any way; I need to continue to trust and believe in My Self. To Shine My Own Light and remember my responsibility for my own energy.
When Julie and I began to realise that we had some incredible things to share with others, we had several discussions about integrity and doing things differently. How do we present the Wisdom we have gathered through our own personal journeys and share it without creating an Agenda? The only way to do this is to Release all expectations. We can never know who will be looking to have their DNA Activated by our words. We can never know what someone wants to hear, or read, or share. We can only present what we Know faithfully in that moment; knowing that our own understanding will expand and new information will show itself when we are ready to receive it. That people will find their own way to us, without tricks or conditions because what we are Sharing is something they personally need and it’s our Role to gather the information so that it can be Received in whichever way is needed. No expectations, no conditions, just acceptance, respect and gratitude. No Agenda needed.